• ᓚᘏᗢ@piefed.socialEnglish
    661·
    10 个月前

    Anyone else see this post and realise they still have ptsd from wearing similar to a club once and sorely regretting it because random drunk men spent the whole night trying to put their hands up your skirt?

    • peoplebeproblems@midwest.socialEnglish
      462·
      10 个月前

      I’m sorry you went through that. I don’t understand why it’s hard for men to not touch something they like.

      Is it because I’m (probably) autistic? Like, look these kind of outfits are simply awesome, but touching someone else without invitation just seems so incredibly… Wrong?

      Its something I’ve struggled with understanding my whole life. Just cause you are into a woman doesn’t mean you need to break boundaries to satisfy urges?

      I mean, shit, I remember from a really, really, really, young age: don’t touch others. Did this message not become a core concept? Or do I just pass out before alcohol has that much of an inhibiting effect on me?

      • Ice@lemmy.world
        28·
        10 个月前

        Is it because I’m (probably) autistic?

        No, it’s a basic human decency thing. No man I know would (intentionally) touch without invitation (whether verbal or body language) and if someone does they deserve a smacking.

        The most common gray area is tight crowds where some assholes try to get away with groping disguised as “accidents” which is disgusting.

        Besides, alcohol and drugs are no excuse. If you can’t control yourself under the influence, don’t use them.

      • onslaught545@lemmy.zip
        281·
        10 个月前

        As a man I’ve never understood it either. Like, I’m hesitant to even touch a woman on the shoulder to get her attention or something like that.

        But, I’m ADHD and possibly a smidge on the spectrum, and I also realize that being a tall muscular dude is inherently threatening to women who don’t know me.

    • M137@lemmy.world
      6·
      10 个月前

      I’m male and had a similar experience with women doing that when I wore a kilt to a club once.

      And just to be very clear, I’m not defending anyone of any gender who does that at all. And in no way saying women touching men is as big a problem, most women have experienced it while only a minority of men have. Your comment just made me remember it, it wasn’t fun.

  • No_Eponym@lemmy.ca
    59·
    10 个月前

    A good skirt is like a good presentation. Long enough to cover the essentials, but short enough to hold the attention.

      • kerrigan778@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        271·
        10 个月前

        I’m still really new to it but it can be painful to get right but it’s really not painful at all once you’re situated right and used to it. Your balls just go up the front of your pelvis kinda behind and to either side of the base of the shaft. And then everything else just gets tucked away. The weirdest part for me was leaning against the counter while doing dishes and realising that my balls were at the front of my pelvis instead of safely down below and it felt very weird (though somehow affirming) to be sensitive in a very different way. Also, I’m not there yet but HRT tends to shrinks your balls which helps.

        • Triasha@lemmy.world
          5·
          10 个月前

          Honestly, once I was on HRT for a while, just tuck everything away works even in a bikini. I have never done a proper tuck with a gaff because before HRT I used specific clothing styles that didn’t need it, and after it just hasn’t been necessary.

  • burgerchurgarr@lemmus.orgEnglish
    35·
    10 个月前

    I’m never sure when these posts pop up if someone is just shitposting or if they confuse this with Facebook