Regarding the soldiers refusing - https://youtu.be/TwPLqGkYnBA is worth a watch. Not as straightforward as you imply.

I know my wife wishes she had never been officially diagnosed with depression, as it precludes her from some jobs she wanted to apply for. How true this is is reality, I don’t know.

There’s a site I use that does that on the password reset page, but not when logging in. So when using a long password it’s as if the reset never works. Took me ages to figure out what was going wrong.

Just FYI, if iOS is in dark mode, so is Mlem. So it has dark mode, I guess it just needs a user setting for it when you want it different from your OS theme