I hear your struggle. I have been on both sides of this fence, recently. Obnoxious interview hoops to jump through and otherwise promising candidates reading verbatim from chatgpt mid interview :/

I would also feel really belittled by tracking software like that (but also probably try a VM, which I assume would get around their trackers anyway, lol).

I do agree with others, a company will get a small amount of hours from me for take home and no more. Be worth my time, earn my respect

Pretending that invading a country, causing mass destruction and death, because America has bad public infrastructure and gas prices might rise is an evil and insane thing to say and a completely head-assed opinion. This is absolutely not a “this happens, unfortunately” situation.

Oh! I had wanted to make something like this, awesome!

Depending on where you live, arrest or court records might be public - do consider though, an arrest doesn’t mean someone did it. Frequently people are arrested incorrectly or the evidence is not found sufficient in court and society says they aren’t guilty. If they are found guilty and are arrested, theoretically they have done their time to repay the moral or ethical debt.

so im just there with him and remind him that i’m there even when he doesn’t feel like talking or we don’t have much to say.

That’s a great thing to do! :) It’s often hard to find people willing to do that, and willing to give space for being disabled/disordered.

A few ideas, from my lifelong struggle with depression, that you can think about as a partner:

• Let them know it’s okay to talk about feelings, that it’s okay to bring stuff up with their friends/support circle, that it’s okay to see a therapist. You can ask (maybe, when it’s less of a down-period) if it’d ever be helpful to help set them up with a therapist, if that’s a thing you think you could help contribute with.
• Let them know that depression and stress happen, and it doesn’t mean they are broken. Things might not always get better, but there will probably be another day sooner than later when it feels easy for their heart to smile
• Let them know it’s okay to be quiet or in the shit or less responsive. Give space for that and make sure you are attending to your own feelings and self and interests in those times. Do things for YOURSELF to help you feel okay and loved and supported by your support circle. If you think they are in the shit, you can do gentle things to help, like ask if you can bring over a snack or some small treat they like, or some other gesture, but also remind them that they are loved and you like to talk/spend time with them whenever they are ready, and they don’t need to feel pressure to feel ready.

for THEM, though, the things they can think about:

• Have that support circle. Do what you can to re-establish friends or family, even if you drift away when you’re in the shit
• Get help. Therapy is great. Hard, but great. If it’s too expensive, think about it later when that’s less of an issue. There’s lots of workbooks that can be attempted for free, and different things work for different people. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can maybe be attempted alone (during less-down times), and works for some people. Dielectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) works for other folks. There’s lots of free resources online for both. It’s okay to just familiarize yourself with those concepts and frameworks, if nothing else.
• Learn to think about how you’re feeling. Learn to take time to stop and name your feelings. Remember that you are the driver, and you can interact with or influence those feelings to some extent.
• Look at the things stressing you out in life or depressing you. Some can be solved. Some can be avoided. Some can be escaped - with distractions, with hobbies. Some things are there to stay, and we can only get better at living with them when they come around.
• Remember hobbies, remember coping strategies, remember things that excite or make you happy. Write them down! Refer to that list, when things are going bad.
• You aren’t broken. Things will get better, sometimes. They will probably get worse again, too. And better again. It’s worth it.

You are also able to use the euphemism. A queer couple can say “we are trying for a baby” to refer to the process of adopting or ivf or anything like that.

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There are open source / self-hosted giphy types of things. Not sure what federating would add, unless you wanted content discovery or something? A link to a picture is a link to a picture, no need to re-host it across instances.

Can pvc cement the outside of pipes together so they are a unit then either glue or screw that whole thing to the box, maybe?

I can’t tell who like ten of the people are

Generally, blockchain is really only helpful in very specific scenarios

• where there is no trust amongst actors (there is trust in dns, I trust you to tell me the details for your DNS records)
• immutability is important (dns records are regularly mutated, only the current state is important)
• and performance is unimportant (performance is critically important for dns)

DNS uses distributes hash tables, which is decentralized. Though, yes, there is centralization in terms of trusted entities able to issue domain names and top level domains, you can already host your own distributed and decentralized name servers

What specs? Remember your thermal paste 🤓

Wow! Is that a career? What’s the coolest place or thing you’ve performed?

https://www.unihertz.com/

I wired my first outlet! (with advice from an electrician)

VLC runs great on Mac and Android as well

You know, “hatch”. But it’s funnier saying door. Could a ship just dock with it, equalise pressure, and open the hatch? Or is there some sort of security? I tend to think ‘no’ because of a macabre situation where the crew are dead and the station is being recovered. But it’s amusing to think in space they don’t need to keep the doors locked.

“Lockpicking lawyer here, and this one is a doozy”

Behavioral mirroring is often a sign of trust or comfort, and applies to levels of eye contact as well. If someone is subconsciously doing the same things you are doing (e.g. longer and more direct eye contact if you initiate, more or slower blinking, more smiling, more relaxed postures to mirror yours), those are good signs of interest.

The converse is also true. If you are doing a lot of direct eye contact, and it seems like the other person is often looking away or closing up their body (crossed arms or rotating their torso away), that’s a sign to reduce some of those behavioral signals to match.

I’d say there isn’t a “This exact amount” to most things, as people are all different in their preferences, and it’s more about adjusting up and down with someone, in response to their small non-verbal or body language signals. They will likely be doing the same with you. Also, as others have mentioned - you can be more direct with words. If this is something you’re unfamiliar with and there’s someone you trust, you can say directly that you’re uncertain and ask something like “I’m not great at knowing how much eye contact feels correct, could you let me know if you notice too much or too little?”. If they are friendly with you, they’ll also likely be comfortable with the small request.

Also, just to say it - eye contact can mean the general eye area - it doesn’t mean your exact pupil to their exact pupil. I find that if I focus on the literal eye/pupil, then I get strained trying and keep attention on that specific small area. If I focus on the general eye area (nose/forehead/eyebrow/general eye) - they both can’t tell that it’s indirect eye contact and it’s easier to let my body auto pilot focus

Hardware stores might have cheap gel knee pads ($10 -> $40 for fancier ones)

There’s also these kneeling mats / pads