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  • Oh geez, no sorry, I’m not telling anyone to stop caring about anything, and def not something like climate change. I’m just some idiot on the internet lol, not anyone who should be telling others how to live their lives.

    I was just trying to explain that therapy, again good therapy, can help people find peace, let go when they need to, or figure out how to carry the things they care about without being crushed by them.

    Edit: typos and formatting


  • Totally get where you’re coming from. If you’re staring down the barrel of something massive like trauma, abuse, an entire system that’s completely fucked and seems way bigger than you and the others fighting it are or ever will be, it feels like no matter how much “self care” you do, the external crap stays the same, right?? It’s fucking maddening.

    But idk, to me, therapy (actual, good therapy with a non-shitty therapist) isn’t about giving us power over the root cause, not always anyways because like you said, sometimes it’s impossible. Imo, a lot of times it’s about helping people stop handing more power to “it” (whatever it may be) than “it” already has. We don’t get to choose what happens to us sometimes, but we do get to choose how we respond to it, how we carry it, how we let it affect us, how we pass our pain onto others. Realizing that can be a super uncomfortable, yet extremely liberating, paradox. Like, okay, I might not be able to slay the dragon here (sorry, nerd here), but I can sure as hell stop feeding it in whatever way I was (constant unhealthy thought patterns, my own actions or the lack thereof, etc).

    Therapy doesn’t fix the world for sure, but it can help us decide which parts of the suffering are necessary, or which parts we might be unconsciously choosing to carry longer than we need to. Idk, that’s where our power really is, imo.

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  • My doctor said something similar.

    But after years of me being on keto, losing 167lbs, having an “absolutely fantastic health record” and the “healthiest bloodwork” he’s ever seen (his words), plus significant improvement in mood, memory, and mobility, and a significant reduction/elimination of pain and inflammation, he changed his mind.

    He even said that most of the content he had heard or read when saying it was “a bad diet” all those years ago was “completely biased” and “worded very slyly” (also his words). After revisiting those sources, he realized they “weren’t actually describing real keto, just people eating a ton of fat” (which is not what keto is), “and crying about how bad fat is” (again, his words… which made me LOL). Also, mega bonus points for him - he actually checked into the sources and found that most of them were funded by the sugar industry.

    It takes nothing to realize you’re wrong; for some people, it takes a lot to admit it. He had no problem doing so, and even recommends the diet to other patients now.



    1. Meditating (not very good at it, but getting better and it’s seriously helping)
    2. Blocking Reddit on my router, blocking political communities in Lemmy
    3. A consistent, normal sleeping schedule (a bedtime routine is more important than a morning routine, imo)
    4. Yoga every morning to help my body work with me throughout the day
    5. Reading more books
    6. Getting outside more often
    7. Paying closer attention to the thoughts that cross through my mind and stopping them when they’re not helpful - this also helped me realize the underlying anxiety that’s been with me for who knows how many years
    8. Drinking more water

    Edit: Oh I also:

    • Quit drinking alcohol, almost at the 1 year mark
    • Quit smoking weed, almost at 2 months fully sober now

    I did these things one at a time, not everything at once. Mostly just sharing what I did here, but if you plan to do the same - listen to yourself. Start with #7 imo so you get a better idea of what you’re up against. If it feels like too much, take a step back and slow down. You’re not failing when you do this, you’re helping your future self not fail entirely.