How do you feel about sexwork?

Mhm lucky guy, I guess.

I mean sex with the boss can get you promoted and can get you in trouble with hr. It can make you known as the office slut.

Did people find out? How was the reaction? How did it came to it? How was the relationship with him afterwards?

Out of curiosity, did that have positive or negative consequences?

I do

I hope someone takes care of that ass otherwise I would take the job!

Please don’t stop posting! You look great 😍

What made you join?

Why do you post a list of your “political” beliefs? That is irrelevant to your own post.

But I have some comments to it.

That list is such an odd collection of beliefs. I mean 8/9 items on the list, and the age of maturity and banning smoking (I guess vapes aren’t cool with you either?) are on the same list? I mean smoking is so irrelevant compared to age of maturity or abortion rights. It seems like a top ten list of “propaganda takes that I copied from the media that I consume instead of thinking about my political views”. That would explain the next issues tho…

I am not sure you understand what “political” means in “political beliefs”.

4. Is literally not a political belief if it is a belief that you don’t want to put into policy.

Given 4., 7. might not be a political belief either.

I think you are trolling because

2. And 3. Seems very odd together. You believe that some people are struggling at their current location but also want to keep them there. (Yes, that is the logical conclusion of your stated beliefs)

3. Who believes that everyone needs to have an electric car? And that public transportation is not key? The cigarette and weed thing has nothing to do with the rest, so wtf is this list?

In short, I will block you, as you are trolling and trying to ruin a good thing (the vibe of community)

And I want to stress, I haven’t argued for or against your position of your beliefs because that isn’t the issue with this shit post, and I don’t think you would be able to have a conversation about your beliefs.

What organization?

You want to believe what you want to believe. That is okay, but remember that you made that decision.

Of course, the other person only see the actions and technically it could be a performance, but you will fail to perform it if you don’t actually feel it.

Nah it is a feeling. It just impacts your behavior. Like fear impacts your behavior, or anger… Or hunger…

If you know your worth and you want to meet people, you don’t sit in the corner waiting for someone to see it.

A confident person does what they believe will lead to success. They take their shot and they will miss more often than not, but they hit at times.

A confident person doesn’t care if people are weirdos about them taking a shot. Because they are confident enough to see that the weirdos are the ones that think it is weird to attempt for love.

Confidence is not being the loudest voice, and taking up space. Confidence is to accept disharmony, if they are right.

Oh I completely agree! I think “competence” is a good source of confidence as it is so independent of so much other stuff. the brash or cocky level of confidence seems fake to me. So when I talk about confidence, I mean self-acceptance and self-appreciation.

Hey, I am relatively young, so take this as the experience with the appropriated doubt.

Confidence will betray you if you aren’t confident. If you think that you are a man not better or worse than others with a partner, then maybe it is difficult to find confidence in that. But that is why you have to do what we all are doing … Look at the things that you are better at than most.

Personally, I know a fair bit about computers. So I take pride in that. Sure, others are probably better at it than me but I am better than most.

Now, being good with computers and knowing a lot about them is generally not what people want to talk about. But that is the neat thing… You don’t have to. I know that I am. I communicate that I am and tell them that I am open to talk about it but as usually people aren’t into it, I won’t start that topic.

That means for me 2 things, 1. My selling point is not my confidence, skill or value. My selling point is me. Either they want me or they don’t. My value is outside anything and everything that they judge. I know my value. And they see it or they don’t. 2. I don’t need to show off what I am confident in.

Those 2 things give me confidence in dating. I don’t have confidence that they want to pull me into their bed. I have confidence in myself and my value.

My gf loves me. I don’t always understand why but she seems really committed. Something about me, that I don’t know and have no confidence in, she is in love with. But that is not an issue, I can love myself for reasons different to her reasons to love me.

Confidence is important because it changes how you behave. Behavior with confidence tend to be more honest in practice. You don’t overthink whether or not to text and ask them out. You aren’t scared of losing this opportunity and feel like a white lie to save the opportunity is worth it. It gives you the ability to communicate in certainty. You say what you mean. And an “I love you” is much more appealing when there is no doubt about the truth of it. Also if your plan is a long life together… Hiding doesn’t work for 20 years.

Hey! Welcome! Enjoy your time here!

Hey, maybe it would help to know what you are looking for.

I don’t know too much about different stores but I am pretty sure there are some specialized markets.

Drunk sex is either sexual abuse or totally fine depending on the situation.

If you want drunk sex with your partner in a way and at a moment that isn’t unusual and there is no reason for them to be currently not in the mood, it is probably fine. if you talked with them about going out drinking and fucking around later, and after drinking, they express that they still want, it is probably fine. Basically if sex is part of your relationship and you have good reason to assume that your partner would want to sleep with you in a sober state and your partner expresses the same desire while drunk, it is probably fine. But you should really talk about that boundary beforehand. Ask them if you can take a drunk yes as a yes, while they are sober!!!

Random hook-up? I would argue, even if your partner was happy afterwards and would want to see you again, you did something really bad. as social norms are, I don’t think you have to be a bad person but you did something stupid and did something really bad and you should stop now. There is no reasonable way to evaluate whether or not the consent was the result of a altered state of mind. You want to have a sex with a person who can’t really consent and you don’t have a prior agreement, you have no reason to assume the drunk person will not wake up and feel raped. You might don’t think it is rape as they said yes, when they are drunk, but for them, they got raped. That is their experience. That is their reality. Sex might be fun but I really don’t want to be the worst day in some else’s life. They deserve better. I deserve better. If you know the risk that your partner might experience it as rape, and you don’t care, you are effectively a rapist. If that person wants to fuck you and can consent, they will contact you when they are sober, when you give them your number and tell them that you would love to but you wanted to make sure that they actually consent.

With prior agreement and if a reasonable assumption can be made that the agreement is still valid, I think in the current social norm it is fine. Just to be clear, if you got the agreement a month ago and you guys haven’t done anything at all, I would argue that you should stay away as people don’t always keep you posted on how they feel about you. If you have received general consent to have drunk sex and you fucked last night, went out partying together and get home together, and then you have the same kind of sex as the night before, it is fair to assume that their yes would have been a yes if they were sober. When in doubt, don’t

I think you are attractive and that you might would be popular on these sites…

But honestly don’t. It is probably not even going to pay you what you deserve for your labor.

Read what people here are saying and remember that if you would do OF, you would probably advertise yourself here. So people would see your naked body, and a lot of people here are specifically here because they want to see naked bodies. You doing OF would be better for them but they tell you not too because it ain’t worth it. Realize the weight of that fact. Think about the risks and costs.

E.g. based on what I heard, you can lose money on OF, because people are cancelling their sub. Just saying.