Then why was I gay before I ever flew? Seriously when I was young and my peers were getting crushes on girls, I was getting crushes on boys. Seems I always liked boys and was never interested in girls.

Second one seems very likely, the text in the sidebar implies that it’s very hands off “Why trust some Big Tech corporation to host your data when some random geek can do it?”. Also the instance went down for a few minutes when I tried to post something there on my old account but then miraculously came back up again, I’m not sure if Lemmy has automatic crash recovery so this might not be a good indicator.

Figured out what it was, rammy only works through https, typing in rammy.site without the https:// causes it to go automatically to http:// which doesn’t connect. It also works though Tor because Tor forces https unconditionally and won’t connect to sites without it.

I would never recommend joining an instance hosted by one person with very little activity (and open registrations), those ones are prime targets for hate groups like the one operating right now on rammy.