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3·4 days agoThat’s awesome! People can put on muscle at any age. At some point there’s no way you could get massive but you can still benefit from it.
Growing up broke will make you feel broke for all your life no matter how much you save up. Therapy helps. Luckily with money you can afford therapy.
Lifting weights and bulking up.
I was underweight most of my life, not severely, but enough where I’d get comments. I hated summer because I hated my skinny arms being exposed. Often avoided wearing shorts even in the heat. Almost never went swimming or to the beach. People don’t say “wow you’re a fat fuck” to people they know but they WILL comment on how skinny you are.
I started lifting, put on 25 lbs so far. I look better, have more energy, and more confidence in my body. Fewer random aches and pains. My mood has improved (turns out not eating can worsen anxiety and make you tired and depressed). While bulking I’ve paid attention finally to what foods digest well or not and so eating has become self-care rather than a chore. I’ve had to replace my entire wardrobe except shoes and hats so I took the time to overhaul my look. I don’t dress flashy now but I dress a lot less like an ignoreable wallflower and more in shit I like. I get more positive attention from hot people and I’m not even super jacked yet, I just went from skinny to normal.
Tree sentinel will kill you with its tree balls 50 more times.
I remember somewhere that nomadic people (hunter-gatherers) would let their kids play with machetes. They would keep a close watch but not stop them. Kids would grow up with many scars but also would learn how to handle machetes safely.
17·25 days agoIf you play by the rules while your enemy doesn’t, you’ll be destroyed. Machiavelli said as much. So USA’s traditional allies have to start playing dirty to survive.
Understandable, I also do things the difficult way in my hobbies.
You can also get pre-mixed stuff if all that is a hassle.
I got a wooden cutting board and a tube each of oil and some stuff that seals it, those have lasted for 8 years now maybe.
11·27 days agoJust like at the hospital!
New years’ resolutions don’t really work for 2 reasons:
- You’re in survival mode so a year-long project is impossible to keep up, you’re living from one day to the next or paycheque-to-paycheque.
Or,
- You’re doing well enough to think of long time horizons. Likely then you have many medium- to long-term goals on the go, and you don’t have to start them in the new year.
I find myself luckily in the latter case. I’ll take the new year as a chance to evaluate where I am with my goals and adjust priorities, if needed.
Goal: put on muscle mass.
Do exercises within all of these categories:
- Vertical press
- Horizontal press
- Vertical pull
- Horizontal pull
- Squat
- Hip hinge
Any program I do must have those. Beyond that, isolation exercises as needed. I’m adding shoulders and arms as I want big ass arms.
This year I mostly did 3x a week full body. Now I’m gonna change to Upper, Shoulders/Arms, Lower. More ShArms to bro out, less leg frequency as they’re growing faster than everything else.
Estimate your total daily energy expenditure:
Eat in a caloric deficit. You will need to weigh your food and track calories, at least for a while.
Weigh yourself and see if the weight is going in the right direction and not losing too fast either. Adjust calories as needed.
It’s way harder than just these steps but this is the foundation. Personally I found the food weighing and calorie counting massively stressful but I got a good sense of how much to eat from doing it from a few weeks. Now I check the scale and log weight and make sure it’s going the way I want it.
Also talk to a therapist. I needed one to get over certain mental barriers and to re-evaluate my relationship to food and my body image.
Have used the apps on and off for a while. When things didn’t go well on them and swiping and chatting only to be ghosted was taking a toll on me, I deleted them and focused on other things in my life for a few months, then returned.
When I still set myself as looking for men on the apps, I’d get a 10:1 ratio of likes from men to women/NB. Men who swiped on me would often be obviously incompatible if they read my profile or have minimum effort profiles. So I turned off looking for men on the apps.
Where I live is pretty accepting of LGBTQ+ people and there’s a good sized queer scene IRL so I can easily find events to meet queer people. However I have severe RBF, generally act unapproachable in-person, look a little scary, am clueless to hints, and don’t drink or party, so for meeting women I use the apps and IRL events specifically for single people.
Not a lot of success so far, but I’ve learned a LOT about what I don’t like in a person. I’ve learned to listen to my instincts. When things felt off and I carried on with the dates I met on the apps, things went badly. As a result, I’m much more in touch with what I want too. I was in a long-term relationship for years before where I compromised too much and settled with someone who I never should have. Dating many people has allowed my own preferences and desires to resurface and has given me a lot of confidence and self-esteem back.
Early teens:
D’Angelo’s video for Untitled (How Does It Feel)? made me realize I like dudes too. Round the same time I remember blushing heavily watching the male gym teacher do pushups.
Knew I liked women earlier when some kid snuck a stack of porno mags and a bunch of kids flipped thru em ogling the titties etc.
I wanna love you like an animal
Love like a beast
All Day I Dream About Love
Too Drunk To Love
Kids these days don’t know about the letter yogh.
Sure, they’re not a bad place to shop. But making it a personality trait is excessive.
Also Costco hotdog is the only true stablecoin.
Here is the website in question