As an admin, when I’m scrolling through and I see a post with -200 votes, it immediately lets me know I should look at what’s going on. That said, I’m sensitive to the fact that certain content gets downvoted … unfairly? disproportionately? and it’s not fun for a lot of people. I’m honestly of two minds.

Second one.

Half million twitter followers, bunch of mainstream company releases, not an A-lister but well known if you’re into their specific genre. Female. They are a friend, we chat all the time. She’s hella autistic, but a nice person.

It was during a shoot and the shot needed it. I was directing and I wasn’t gonna ask someone else to do something if I wasn’t willing to do it myself so… I did it. It’s not my thing at all but we didn’t have anyone who really really wanted it, so…

You know, it felt like someone was putting a cigarette out on my wrist. It’s absolutely not my kink, but the shot needed it so…

Also there are a few tricks you an use so you’re not as badly burnt as people may think. You give the cig a little bit to cool down so it’s still lit, but not bright red, and you lick your wrist a couple of times immediately ahead of the burn. Still hurts like a motherfuck though.

Essentially forever. If I want to orgasm not only do I have to concentrate, but I need very specific kinds of stimulation. It’s a real bother most of the time, but I have never in my life finished early, so…

Well you can upload images to Lemmy itself, up to a few MB per image. Otherwise, I think a lot of people are using redgifs. I have also heard good things about jpg.pet and pixl.li for images, and saint.to and pixeldrain.com for video.

This is inaccurate. It did not say “childlike” at the time that Ada complained. After we got defederated, I asked a new mod of that community to update the sidebar because it was very light on rules, purpose, etc. and I thought that maybe our conflict with blahaj could have been avoided if the sidebar was more explicit about what the community was about. As part of his revision, on his first pass he copied and pasted a dictionary definition of “adorable” which included the word “childlike”, then went back and re-edited it to remove that word on a later editing pass. I want to say it was in there for about two hours? During that time, a couple of people spotted it and made some unwarranted assumptions.

They are numbered? Do you not see them like this?

YOU’RE NOT THE BOSS OF ME

The Buddha teaches that desire is the root of all suffering. Abandon the desire and you abandon the suffering.

Envy is resenting another person for having what you think you lack, but the resentment comes from you, not from them. They are doing nothing wrong.

You feel resentment because you feel bad about not having something, not them having it. After all, if you both had it then you wouldn’t feel bad, would you? It’s a lack of self-esteem and a glut of self-hatred that you’re really fighting. Resentment is just a projection of that feeling outwards instead of inwards. It’s much easier to dislike them because then you don’t have to confront what it is about yourself that you dislike.

It’s ok to see someone and want what they have, as long as you can let that feeling go. Acknowledge it, embrace it, and then release it. Acknowledge that any negativity comes from how you feel about yourself, not them. Acknowledge this your self-hatred is a problem you can solve, and then do something to solve it.

rape is out. tentacle rape, being rape, is out. consentacles is in.

FAQ and clarifications

Q. Does rule 1 mean that we can’t talk about our personal experiences from when we were minors?

A. No, members of the instance can discuss their personal experiences with sex before the age of 18 as long as it is relevant, factual, and not graphic. “I lost my virginity in the back of a Volkswagen beetle when I was 15” is fine. A post that is a blow-by-blow detailed account of underage sex or a post specifically soliciting stories about underage sex would not be fine.

Q. What does “sourcing” mean? Why should we have to do that?

A. Sourcing is identifying the source of the content that you’re posting. Our primary concern is being able to tell if material is underage, or not made with the consent of the model. Sourcing helps alleviate that concern.

It can be as simple as naming the mainstream artist or studio that produced the image, or the well-known performer in the image (“Evil Angel” or “Sasha Grey” or “Boris Vallejo”). If the content is not a mainstream studio or well-known pornstar, a link to the creator’s OF or modeling agency page or pornhub profile or verified reddit profile can work as well. The source must indicate, at very least, that the creators/models of what you’re sharing are ok with being in porn on the internet.

You don’t have to source your posts, but sourcing will help your posts survive a report if someone erroneously reports your material. We don’t have the resources to do a full investigation on every report of inappropriate content, so without a source, mods will tend to err on the side of caution.

For OC posts in c/gonewild and similar communities, mods of that forum must comply with our verification requirements. For OC, verification counts as sourcing which means it is not strictly necessary but strongly encouraged. We plan to implement a sitewide verification procedure soon, but until we do it’s down to each community’s mods.

Q. How does verification work?

A. There are a couple of different ways to get verified, but the most important thing to remember is that no moderator or admin will ever ask you to show them your government ID. If someone does ask you to provide them your government ID, please contact an admin immediately.

We are actively investigating hiring a secure third-party age verification site like agechecker.net to provide verification for us. Until that comes into effect, we accept the existence of an Onlyfans, Fansly, Chaturbate, Streamate, or Pornhub account, or appearance in a 2257-compliant adult film as verification. If you and an admin can come up with another way of verification that does not involve sending your government ID to them, we will also accept that pending approval by a second admin.

Q. What’s your policy on drug-related content?

A. Because of the wide variability in the laws worldwide regarding mind-altering substances, linking to any site which distributes (for sale or otherwise) mind-altering substances or paraphernalia, regardless of legality where you are or where the site is located, is prohibited. This includes but is not limited to any cannabis or cannabis-analogues, any prescription meds, any alcohol, and any tobacco. Discussion of these substances is allowed; links to commerce or distribution are not.

Q. How do I know what counts as NSFW and what doesn’t?

A. When in doubt, flag it as NSFW. If it’s not something that could be pinned on a bulletin board in a professional office without drawing an HR complaint, it’s NSFW. Something doesn’t have to be nude to be NSFW. Feet pics are always NSFW.

Q. I am an NSFW content creator. Can I promote my OnlyFans, Fansly, Pornhub etc?

A. lemmynsfw.com supports sex workers and creators and we want you to feel like you belong here. We do not have an instance-wide rule against self-promotion, but be aware that individual communities may prohibit self-promotion and you must respect those rules. Please do not spam our instance and please do not spam messages to users, but feel free to create a comm for yourself if you like and participate in other comms that are friendly to your content. Solicitation of sexual services is strictly forbidden. (Fuck SESTA/FOSTA.)

Q. For drawings or animation, including manga and hentai, how can I tell if something counts as forbidden content or not? I can’t tell!

A. Trying to make hard and fast rules about this stuff is always tricky because people will keep trying to find ways around the rules and the human imagination is infinite, so we are going with a subjective standard: If a mod or admin looks at an image and thinks “that is forbidden content”, it’s forbidden content. We’ll know it when we see it. (And you know it when you see it too, quit lying. If you’re into forbidden content there are other instances where that material is welcome. Bring it there. We don’t want it here.)

Q. Does the prohibition on bestiality/zoophilia apply to fantasy animals, like Pokemon or magical winged ponies?

A. Yes. We may relax this rule in the future like the some of the content we are temporarily restricting, but that is not a sure thing yet.

Q. Why are you so strict? Reddit wasn’t this strict!

A. We’re not reddit and we’re not trying to be reddit. We have decided to prioritize safety and consent, which means prohibiting some content that Reddit may have allowed.

Q. Oh yeah? Well I’m gonna start my own instance! With blackjack! And hookers!

A. Godspeed, you beautiful maniac.

Admin/Moderator decisions are final and arguing with them can result in suspension or banning of your account and purging of your content.

Revised Rules for Sidebar

Rules

Before you start participating, please take a moment to familiarize yourself with our rules:

• 🔞 Age Requirement: All users and lurkers MUST be age 18 or over.

  • Posting content involving any person who is under 18 is strictly forbidden. This includes real, drawn, and fictional content.
  • All loli/shota/cub or similar content is strictly forbidden.

• Respect and Consent: Treat all members with respect and obtain consent when sharing explicit content involving others. No doxxing. No soliciting or sharing personal info. No homophobia, transphobia, body shaming, or kinkshaming. Don’t be an asshole.

• No NSFL/Gore/Snuff Content: We strictly forbid the sharing or promotion of NSFL (Not Safe For Life) or gore content. This includes fictional snuff scenarios.

• No Bestiality/Zoophilia: We strictly forbid any NSFW content involving animals.

• No Non-Consensual Content: We strictly forbid content made or released without consent of everyone in the content, including revenge porn / deepfakes / leaked content / NC / true voyeur / rape content.

• No Illegal Content: - We strictly forbid promotion and detailed discussion of things that are broadly illegal in most of the world, like murder, animal cruelty, money laundering, and so on. Our policy on mind-altering substances is more complicated – see the FAQ (link to FAQ pending).

  • Solicitation of sexual services (either way, asking or offering) is strictly forbidden.

• NSFW Flag: All NSFW communities and posts must be flagged as NSFW.

• No Rules Lawyering: Admin/Moderator decisions are final and arguing with them can result in suspension or banning of your account and purging of your content.

If any material is ambiguous or borderline forbidden content, we’re usually going to err on the side of caution. Please use your common sense.

All users and communities must follow and respect these general instance-wide rules. Any violations could result in suspension or banning of your account or community and purging of your content.

Community Guidelines

• Stay Relevant: Share relevant content in the relevant communities and ensure your content complies with the rules of those communities.
• Self-Promotion: Self-Promotion is only okay as long as the community you are posting in allows it, and you don’t spam it.
• Content Sourcing - We would strongly prefer all content be credited and sourced if possible, to make it easier to keep CSAM and noncon off of the instance. See the FAQ for more info. (link to FAQ pending).
• Furry Content - Furry content is allowed (unless it conflicts with any other rules) but furries may be better served at https://pawb.social/ or https://yiffit.net/.

Temporary Rules

Because of technical limitations of the Lemmy platform, we are forced to implement some restrictions on content. These are restrictions that don’t necessarily fit with our larger philosophy. We hope to revise this section once Lemmy evolves as a platform and moderation tools improve.

• NSFW User Avatar: NSFW user avatars are prohibited as it is currently not possible to mark users as NSFW.
• Temporary Content Restrictions: The following content is temporarily restricted: Hot lunch (🤮), blood, scat, CNC.

If you are the admin of another instance and you have any issues with Lemmy NSFW please raise it with one of our admins so we can communicate on how we can improve this instance. We would prefer to work with you before either of us consider defederation.

… and then the rest of the stuff currently on the sidebar: Contact info and the Donations info

Good thought. Working on it.

Correct.

There there, robot. You’re doing your best.

Hey just a quick FYI, if anyone here in the US is thinking of taking this instance over, I would strongly recommend becoming extremely familiar with correctly implementing section 230 of the Communications Decency Act and related laws. And I don’t mean just reading it and thinking “I am a smart person, I get this now”. I mean learning how large social media sites and their T&S teams actually implement it for real. Otherwise you will very possibly go to a PMITA prison and wind up on the sex offender registry.

I’m not messing with you. The feds do not fuck around with this stuff.

Jeffrey Coombs hasn’t been in Lower Decks, Prodigy or SNW yet. He needs to get on that!

There are three or four other instances that allow nsfw content, but it’s forbidden for most instances because NSFW content is a massive pain in the ass to moderate. Depending what country you’re in you probably have a lot of regulations you need to follow, including in the US where you need to comply with safe harbor regulations so you don’t get in trouble when some asshole uploads a bunch of underage stuff to your server.

Even outside the legal stuff, you’re going to have to deal with a lot of weirdos and negotiate and regulate other people’s sexual fetishes to a significant degree. Most people just don’t want to deal with that, and I can’t blame them.

Yeah the meaning tends to wander a bit. Mostly it means “sexy but technically SFW, sometimes up to implied nude”, but obviously ymmv and you often get people pushing the limits in order to get included in the hashtag when they don’t really belong. In places where there’s a place to post explicitly nsfw stuff, “lewd” trends tamer.