“Horniness is the suspension of disgust” is going in my quote book, fyi. It also explains some things about me and my near-constant horniness. And, I think in some ways, the stereotypical CIS male mindset in general. Thank you for this

For us both, really. Its caused a lot of strain on our relationship. I am more than happy to masturbate, but it doesn’t scratch the same itch for me as sex with my wife - lack of intimacy, I guess, but also just I love pleasuring her and I miss that. My wife finds masturbation to be wholly unsatisfying and gets outwardly frustrated if she goes solo for a while.

We both work full time and are juggling taking care of the baby, so many days we just don’t have the bandwidth to both have free time and privacy at the same time and thus initiate sex. Usually we’re worn out by the time the baby is asleep, and even if one or both of us is in the mood we just don’t have the energy. My wife has expressed that she feels rejected and unattractive because of it, and I find myself depressed and also a bit unattractive if I’m being honest.

But we are good communicators with each other, and we’re working through it. Its just hard.

I think the stat is at least 21x per month. So more like 5-6x per week for prostate health benefits.

I just started looking throughthe thread, but the idea that once a week is fairly frequent is mind boggling for me. My wife and I started having sex only once a week post-baby, and its caused us to seek therapy…

Yeah, the bones are indestructible, so there’s never a need to regenerate

Two years ago I sought therapy for my endless cycle of depression, described almost verbatim as above. It was affecting my work performance, my marriage, and I had some pretty compelling thoughts about climbing a tree and taking the nylon-braided express.

Wasn’t my first time seeking therapy. I’d been dealing with depression since middle school. Been on and off anti-depressants. Nothing worked for long, spent most of my time white-knuckling my way through life.

Then, this therapist tells me I don’t have depression. I have ADHD and thats causing consistent depressed states in a neverending cycle of executive disfunction and shame. Or, put another way, “yeah you’re depressed but that ain’t the root cause.”

Since then I’ve learned a lot of ADHD coping skills, I got on low dose stimulant meds, and I’ve learned a lot about how my nervous system works and how to listen to it. Living my best life now.

I wonder how many people are out there thinking they’re depressed and that nothing has helped or will help, but are actually just under- or improperly diagnosed? Getting the totally wrong kind of help? Its kinda chilling.

This post proved to me that AI art can have value.

A very small amount, when used vindictively to produce a single kek

This, but you can go ahead and skip Rogue One as well. Its a good movie, no doubt - but Andor retroactively sabotaged it a little.

I’ve done that. Fresh turkey slaps.

Holdup. Ate? As in cannibalism? That hasn’t been in the news. What document was that in?

Man, I love random encounters. They feel like an intrinsic part of the genre for me. And I was mildly annoyed by the open-world encounter style in FFXV (latest one I played), partly because I felt consistently incentivized to avoid encounters but running around enemies. But maybe I’m just turning into an old man lol or I have too passive a playstyle

Bruh. The GameCube was practically retro in 2010

I was about to dispute this, but I think its essentially correct. I for sure fall into the second camp, and while I despise the minimap bloat of a lot of newer games, I do want something that is going to guide my actions a bit. I want to like No Man’s Sky so much, but playing it feels like work. Endless tasks with no satisfaction except whatever personal pride you happen to glean from a job well done.

There’s gotta be a sweet spot between “I dunno, do whatever” and “here’s a map of everything interesting, do it all”. I think Breath of the Wild had a okay balance, but still not great. Maybe something more like Morrowind’s “here’s verbal clues, now go figure it out” approach

I don’t think this is proving the point that the people who say this want it to make. If you’re trying to champion what the movie is trying to be, then that’s one thing. (i.e. Marvel movies want to be fun, fast paced, action packed, and humorous)

But championing what a movie is not trying to be doesn’t really work. For example, saying that a movie isn’t trying have the traits that make a movie good (pacing, plot, framing, blocking, cut speed, color grading, etc), especially when all those elements are present simply by virtue of the medium.

That’s like saying a watch isn’t broken just because it doesn’t tell time. You can like a broken watch. It can be a fun fashion accessory. It can have a pleasing design or be comfortable on the wrist. But it still doesn’t tell time. And thats not a dig on those who like it, it’s just a true statement about the watch.

Or enforce social hierarchies based on genetic traits? (Gattaca)

Using the word “refused” assigns negative intent to the kid. And maybe the kid did refuse(“I don’t like those toys”), but I find that unlikely it they started playing with them at daycare. Maybe there are toys at home they prefer. Maybe, as others have stated, its more of an environment thing. Most kids, even when they start to be conversational, lack the vocabulary to fully express themselves. They learn to say what they don’t like earlier than saying what they do like, and will often use black/white terminology even when the feeling is more nuanced.

As a (soon to be) dad who doesn’t want any more pets, it’s not cause I don’t like animals. I love animals… maybe too much, cause I just don’t know how many more I can bury.

Maybe I need to get a pet that will outlive me. Something cuddly with a lifespan of like 60-80 years

I suppose you’re right there - I was conflating Starring with Leading, which is different. He has a lot of starring roles, but only a few leading roles.

But its not like leading roles are the hallmarks of success, either. There are plenty of successful and iconic supporting/character actors out there who are absolutely successes and have raving fans. Its not a mark against his talent.

He was great in that as well. I didn’t include it because he wasn’t in the ads for the movie, and so “we” weren’t sold a seat based on his participation, but good callout.

Late reply, but man I wish I had that skill. People have given me tips and tricks, I’ve watched YouTube videos, people have coached me through it on the grill and in the kitchen - without a meat thermometer, I can’t cook poultry to dave my life. Its always either raw or bone dry. But, with the Meater… flawless every time