So what do you think happened?

Just asking a question…

Did he just get spooked and tweaked/threw out his back or ankle?

My guitar has these too

Exactly. Been trying to tell people this.

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I haven’t messed with Debian in a while but I remember the install being a hassle for all of my devices. But in my experience when I go to compile something I have to tediously update scores of libraries as dependency issues metastisize throughout the system. At some point I think to my self “who am I an Ubuntu developer or something?” and I go download some upstream distro like Ubuntu or PopOS.

I would play MechWarrior 3 on campaign mode and try again in half an hour or however long it took me to die a few times.

Making something so routine that you don’t think about it. Like getting ready for work. Build it into your life. Make it a distraction. Get rid of start up barriers that make it difficult to get started. Make it to where you don’t expect to reach the goal. Put all the distractions together so you can switch between them seamlessly. Lean in to the ADHD. Make it so that once you reach your goal your not only surprised but also kinda sad it’s over.

On another note imo someone who makes plans that fall apart at the first hiccup and don’t accommodate the people involved isn’t someone who is good at making plans. Just someone that has very rigid expectations.

Also your partner maybe experiencing some undiagnosed ADHD symptoms themselves. Where by they become more sensitive to ADHD behaviors that they themselves combat with a toxic inner voice. ADHD can be expressed in many ways and not always the cosmonaut - spacey variety. For instance having a very rigid routine in high stimulus activities like shopping where you’re focus is being exploited by advertising and marketing.

The ideal situation shouldn’t be that you are made to cope in such a way that you operate as a normal person. The ideal should be that you have learned something about yourself that can allow you and your partner to organize your lives more effectively with less friction.

It sounds like your partner maybe suffering from anxiety issues. As a adhd’r myself I have to constantly defend my need to just let me do things the way I want. Like give me a goal and let me mess up a bit. Just need the space and time to figure out how I am going to do something my own way cause my experience isn’t typical and it becomes unintuitive for passerby who are trying to facilitate my progress. As a musician I also have become acutely sensitive to how long it takes me to learn an pickup new skills and how my alternative methods often allow me to flourish while traditional methods often hinder me.

Just repeatedly saying “relax” and/or “It’s okay”. As a big clumsy guy I have so much anxiety about getting carried away and hurting someone or making them uncomfortable. I like when she is the instigator. Also when she starts bargaining for sexual gain. I don’t like it when porn narratives have a quid pro quo where the girl has to give up sex in order to get some help or whatever that shouldn’t require a sexual barrier. But I do like it when that gender dynamic is reversed and she sexually motivated for her own gratification.

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Ready to eat quick food that is relatively healthy. Bananas, carrots, celery, rice cakes, chewing gum, water. Short circuit the junk snacks with fruits and veggies that are more easily accessed or at least as easy. I also had premade meals delivered. Make it to where it’s a hassle to get access to unhealthy food. Hard to go through the trouble to get the junk food when the healthy stuff is readily available.

Reminds me of this post: https://lemmy.world/post/34611501

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The second season is even better

Old but if you haven’t seen Making a Murderer you should give it a watch.