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Cake day: June 4th, 2025

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  • I can’t fathom being so sensitive and so chronically online that you need to post a genuine Response to a fucking jokey post about girls needing to be a little mean to make creepy dudes go away.

    Oh no, I’ve replied to a meme in a non-hostile way without downvoting it and boosted its platform visibility. How dare I?

    If you ever wonder, “Why am I single? Why won’t someone date me?” It’s because you say stupid shit like this. You’re not a victim, dude, so stop acting like one.

    Engaged, but appreciate the concern for my dating life.


  • This is a pattern that if applied broadly feels guaranteed to spiral into the opposite of the desired outcome.

    1. Be rude as a rule to men

    2. Men interpret what was once ‘rude’ as normal behavior

    3. Stepping positively outside the new normal gets interpreted as possible sexual interest

    4. Now you are required to be even ruder baseline to avoid misinterpretation, and men just get treated worse socially.



  • I’m not sure if you use the term tankie correctly.

    Quite right. I was using it this way because it is used often incorrectly on Lemmy and I figured it would get the point I was making across.

    But I can never agree with a tankie claiming to share those values while supporting regimes that would make even marx and lenin vomit (or I hope so, even though I’m not their fan and don’t know that much about them).

    Very easy to end up sharing those values and supporting regimes that don’t agree simply with the prevalence of misinformation, or sometimes when a difference in priorities is masquerading as a difference in values. As someone who is not a fan of nation states in general, I just try to sus out if people are unironically on board with atrocities or just disagree about the history but would be horrified if they believed.




  • the litmus test for tankies is whether they blindly support modern era china, russia, and nk, all authright empires

    This is pretty close to my own thoughts, though my definition might go more into the ideological underpinnings of those positions. There’s also a lot of leeway in the “blindly” on that one, and I would guess I am less likely to label someone a tankie than others here.

    The term is thrown around pretty loosely on Lemmy. I’ve been called a tankie on here for criticizing democrats and for disagreeing with specific criticisms of the Trump regime (things like going after Melania’s nudes or other things I find entirely trivial next to the monstrous crimes) so I expected it to be taken as the more vibes based usage here.











  • Been through scouting and boy does it have some issues, but its also valuable. Wish we could trash the institutions as they are and replace them with a unified education org. Scouting is great as a learn about the outdoors and leadership education, not so much as an alternative to tying kids hands to the bed frame to stop them masturbating (iykyk).

    Hopefully this won’t be what kills scouts, hopefully the org will have a more phoenix style burn and rise form the ashes renewed and better